Matthew 7:1 ~ “Judge not, lest ye be judged.”
This week, I was scrolling through my Facebook feed when I came across a post I’d never thought I’d see. My former pastor announced she had left her husband for another woman. I was floored. It wasn’t her bi-sexuality which upset me, I’m good with all types of consensual sexuality. I was simply shocked to “hear” their marriage had ended.
Actually, shocked is the wrong word. I was angry. It had been her sermon which helped me see that I could be a Christian without sacrificing my progressive values. Now she was leaving her husband who had recently been in the hospital. “How dare she,” I said to myself.
Then I caught myself. I realized I’d been judging her based on what they both mean to me, but in reality I had no more idea than the man on the moon what their personal issues were/are. Even if I had known, it’s not my place to judge either them in any way.
Jesus loved unconditionally. Prostitutes, tax collectors, and fishermen were all welcome within His fold; they were all loved for who they were. As Christians, we’re called to love without judgment or condition.
To spite Seinfeld’s theory of the winner receiving the spoils, I will still count each of them among my list of friends, and will love them for who they are. I’m just ashamed it took me a few days to get there.